What people get away with now

(This is a Spoiler Alert for those of you who haven't finished The Bachelor).

I watch The Bachelor pretty regularly, and when I saw who was going to be the bachelor this time I was extremely excited because he was amazing in the bachelorette and I was excited that he would get his happy ending. I picked Melissa out the first night (as did Cory) that she was going to get to the end. So imagine how excited I was for her when he picked her and proposed. My happiness (for a person I've never met, but whatever) was quickly dashed when at the show called "The Bachelor: After the final rose" Jason said that the chemistry has been different and he wants to take his decision back and choose the other girl. So while on the show he broke up with the woman he had proposed to and told that her that he would try everything to make her happy and that he loved her. Then he confessed his love for the other girl (Molly) he had originally sent home. Molly who is shocked by this says that they can get back together.

This makes me so sad...not because the girl I wanted to win didn't win but because this is behavior that Jason demonstrated is acceptable in today's society. He kept saying that he needed to follow his heart and that if it were his son asking for advice in this kind of situation then he would tell him to follow his heart. To me this is crap! Yes you should follow your heart to a point, but you need to make hard decisions to stay and fight for someone you love or you can leave when things don't go exactly as you hoped. He kept saying that the chemistry was different, well of course it is going to be different people are jetting you around the world and you don't get to go on fantasy dates but what is even better real life begins. It makes me so mad that the only advice you hear is to follow your heart...well you should also listen to your head and make the DECISION to work towards a real relationship. Sorry but passion and excitement will fade as you get to know each other better and you need to make a choice to do things to keep that going and you also need a fountain of trust and understanding and that is something that many people do not understand.

What also upsets me about the situation is that Molly just accepts him back. She has been trying to get over this heartache because he chose someone else over her and then after 6 weeks it all just melts away because he changed his mind and you accept him for that? That is not okay. What kind of example is that? She might become someones step mom and she just set the example that he can go around with other girls and it is okay because they will accept him once he is "sorry". My prayer after watching this is that my niece (and my future kids) will have enough self-esteem to say no if she finds a guy who isn't worthy of her. I pray that our family can help give support and encouragement and provide such an example that she will understand that she deserves better than second best. Also that she loves God and that he will show her that person when she is ready and when he is ready as well. Lastly that this stuff is not acceptable in her eyes!